Checks in with him/herself frequently.
Feels no need to control others.
Has a high energy and involvement level.
Is willing to take risks in life.
Takes time out for him/herself regularly.
Has a support system of friends around him/her.
Is both responsible and childlike.
Is not dependent upon one person for all of his/her emotional well-being.
Has workable and realistic expectations in life.
Can give and receive love without losing him/herself.
Can confront and say "NO" when needed.
Is accepting of him/herself
Has the courage to be who he/she really is, not what anyone else expects.
"The most elusive knowledge of all is self-knowledge."
"The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination."
"The Kingdom of God is within you"
"That which must be learned can't be taught."
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
-The Serenity Prayer
"My Declaration of Self Esteem:
I am me. In all the world there is no one else exactly like me. There are persons who have some parts like me, but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it."
"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself."
" Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.... Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do."
"To thine own self be true. And it must follow, as the night the day, thou can not then be false to any man."
"Enlightenment is not imagining figures of light, but making the darkness conscious."
"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."
Very concerned about what others think.
Attempts to please others.
Feels compelled by shoulds, oughts and have-to's.
May try to control others.
Has difficulty expressing feelings.
Decision-making is difficult- is indecisive.
May be a caretaker or a taker.
Feels resentful and trapped.
Often feels tense, anxious, stressed or fearful.
May fear being alone or abandoned- is lonely.
May feel out of control.
Feels confused and uncertain
Often feels depressed.
Feels as if life is passing him/her by.
The Place Within
At The Place Within, we encourage you to live an inner-directed life. We do not believe this is selfish. Rather, living an inner-directed life is the way we are most able to connect with and care for others.
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